If you want rapid weight loss or another diet.. RUN! This is not for you. I work with clients who are at the same low point I was. They are deadly serious about NOT doing another diet (which would risk further weight gain when they inevitably break it). They are serious about stabilising their condition and improving it.
How many sessions with a counselor does it take to cure depression?
How many sessions with a therapist does it take to overcome alcoholism?
If you want to know how many sessions it takes to overcome Binge eating disorder, overeating, food addiction, or help someone who has a lifelong weight problem the answer is I don’t know.
I work with clients with a varying range of starting-off points and therefore varying endpoints.
Some clients start with extreme self-hatred, body loathing, and feel extreme guilt, shame, remorse, regret after eating. They think about their weight and food most of the day. They have very low motivation and feel defeated by the weight problem most of the time. When we are in this place our eating is the worst, we are generally binging and restricting very often, and our weight is going up and up either gradually or rapidly.
The first step is to get clients to a more neutral place, where they no longer obsess, no longer beat themselves up, no longer feel guilt as severely or as often and they no longer binge or restrict either. They are equipped to eat out, get takeaways and enjoy the experience. Experiences they previously would have dreaded or meant it was a “bad day”. At this point they have stabilised the condition and are either staying the same or slowly losing weight depending on the week.
Once they achieve the neutral stage they can start getting to a positive stage: they have positive psychology and are used to supporting themselves in achieving their goals. Guilt and shame are now seen as delay to our results and they don’t waste time on them. They don’t eat a food if it doesn’t taste that nice. They have no interest in eating any amount of food that could make them feel heavy, lethargic, overfull, or sick: they know they deserve better. They do not follow rules. When we are in the neutral zone and the positive zone our body is getting an opportunity to let go of all of our excess weight that was sustained by our old negative habits.
Please know this is a journey and was for me too. If permanent change and living happily ever after at your ideal weight with a fun, free relationship with food is your goal, you better be willing to accept that it will take time, and a truck load of patience. Be ready to make some uncomfortable, unfamiliar changes to how you have been thinking about and approaching yourself and your weight.
Saddle up if you are ready 😎